6 Ways to maintain his interest during a date (Pre-COVID-19 pandemic dating)

Let’s skip the cliché hair twirling, revealing a peek of your cleavage, and slightly licking your lips! Yes, this may work as men are visual creatures, but if you want him to see beyond your physical attributes on the first date, then let’s talk about the real stuff to grab his attention.

6 – Keep the conversation balanced

Get a bit personal, but not too personal to reveal your entire life story all in one date. You want him to get to know the real you. What great way to begin your date by indulging in your likes and dislikes, interests, past experiences, and whatever funny stories you have tucked away. Be mindful of his chance to talk about himself too! Don’t be a constant blabber as this will only become a bore too soon and make him question your selflessness. Remember a date is about getting to know more about each other, not just talking about you!

5 – Compliment him

Men like it when you notice things about them, even the smallest detail. It’s an erroneous perception that only females like when a guy compliments them, but nothing is wrong with telling your sexy hunk how nice his smile is, how good he smells or that you like his shirt. He made an effort for you to notice so make him feel wanted. This will of course help to affirm your interest in him and peak his curiosity.

4 – Block distractions from Social Media!

It’s a shame to have even made this a point of concern. “A guy sits at a café having a cup of coffee just basking in the ambiance of the world around him, no tablet, laptop or phone, “what a weirdo right?!” – NO!

It seems like the norm these days is to have your phone in hand while conversating; don’t even get me started on the salivating urge to retrieve the wifi password from your server. “Oh, you have no WIFI!? THAT’S ABSURD, WHAT KIND OF PLACE IS THIS?”

The whole point of a date is to give the other party your full attention. Resist the urge to check your Instagram notification; that vibration could be a friend request from a stranger without a profile photo anyway, pssh! Be in tune with what he is saying; glancing away at your phone is insulting and could make him question your interest. Huge turn off!

3 – Send Signals

Exude confidence in your stare, lock into his eyes for a full 3 seconds – sends the message ‘I want you.’ Now don’t go staring too long being creepy, this will probably make him raise his eyebrows or back away thinking something is wrong with you. The horrid aggressive gaze is just plain weird! Maintain brief copulatory gaze and give him a ‘not so’ obvious seductive smirk. Just enough to raise either one of your cheeks slightly; sending a message through your body that you like him and find him attractive.

2 – Offer to Pay

Assuming you’re on a dinner date, offer to cover the bill. It’s traditionally expected and socially endorsed that the guy should pay for dinner, however, while this has become the best approach and one that I support, it’s good when a female makes the offer. Of course we expect him to pay and I’m pretty sure the guy you’re with is thinking the same. Though out of courtesy, you can offer to pay and let him say, “No, please let me.” That’s when you tuck away your purse and let him do his thing. This asserts your independence and lets him know that you’re able to take care of things when you need to without relying on your partner. But what if he actually lets you pay? Well then, you’ve found out a valuable piece of information about this guy before the second date. (We’ll talk more about that in a subsequent post). Use that observation and form your own assessment of him and see how the rest of the date goes.

1 – Leave him wanting more

Say goodbye leaving a sense of mystery behind. Abruptly withdraw when he least expects it whether it’s during an attempted kiss, whispering something naughty in his ear, or after giving a tight long warm embrace…of course at this point he may have anticipated to get to first base or if you’re that kind of ‘gal’ then perhaps fourth base. Leave him questioning whether you wanted more or if you were really just being a tease. Either way he may never know! He’ll love the mystery because at this point you’ve aroused his interest and now he finds you even more attractive. Safe to say he’ll be going home thinking about the whole date!

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